Bedbugs just aren't that terrible. I think you need to think about whether your fear is rational. It is also becoming increasingly ineffective due to overuse. We washed everything in hot water, got a mattress cover, and used a lot of diatomaceous earth. After all, that kind of discussion would prove to me that the person was ethical and concerned about the impact of her actions on others. However, I don't think it should be. I like this guy, but I have a bit of a bedbug phobia and really do not want to have to deal with them in my home. Your risk of bedbugs is high all over NYC. If the person basically mentioned bed bugs and framed it with language that told me that the person felt like the only responsible thing to do was to mention this to dates so that the date could take adequate precautions, then, actually, my estimation of the person and my assessment of the level of risk in the situation would go up and down respectively. His building management company does spray to get rid of them, but apparently this doesn't work all the time as they keep coming back. There are tons of bedbug and hassle-free dudes out there. And so on, and so forth. That said, if it's going to constantly give you the heebie jeebies and become a preoccupation for you, I don't know if you would be able to even give the relationship a chance. We're talking about bedbugs, not AIDS. With the cat analogy, I could take meds to reduce the likelihood of the allergies getting bad.
If he is careful to only bring freshly laundered clothes to your place, maybe spray his bag and coat before coming over use a permethrin spray , he can cut the chances of bringing them to your house. I know some people like that. So he's not tending bedbugs, but he certainly doesn't mind them -- after all, he signed a new lease, so either they're not a problem in his apartment, or he doesn't care if they are. Annoying, but not life-threatening or worth sitting up nights worrying about. I remember rereading MacBeth to find the sleep speech "innocent sleep, sleep that knits up the ravelled sleeve of care Probably not relevant but this is in NYC. So basically, if going over to his apartment is a dealbreaker, letting him visit you should also be a dealbreaker. My primary suggestion would be hanging any bags you have with you on a hook and not leaving them on the floor, and not leaving any clothes you may, theoretically, take off wink wink while you're there lying around on the floor. We're talking about bedbugs, not AIDS. But risk bedbugs from some random guy you don't know from Adam for a date or two? Same applies to you. Every time you cross the street to see this guy, you risk your life So how badly do you want it? If you do get them, it's a hassle. Go out of my way to remove all the hair off my clothes after I visit her, or ask she do the same before she comes into my house. I'm extremely allergic to bites, so I got really itchy. It is also becoming increasingly ineffective due to overuse. For his own benefit, whether this turns out to be a dealbreaker or not, he should invest in a caulking gun and caulk the hell out of every possible crack, cranny, and nook in his apartment. Your risk of bedbugs is high all over NYC. If the person basically mentioned bed bugs and framed it with language that told me that the person felt like the only responsible thing to do was to mention this to dates so that the date could take adequate precautions, then, actually, my estimation of the person and my assessment of the level of risk in the situation would go up and down respectively. I am not a therapist, but that's usually the litmus test for a phobia. They're just bugs - they're not even vectors for disease, which makes them relatively nonthreatening bugs, at that. I like this guy, but I have a bit of a bedbug phobia and really do not want to have to deal with them in my home. It's totally okay for this to be a deal breaker. It is a likely human carcinogen and is not necessarily pet-safe: Am I being silly?
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